Testimonials

Hesed & MegHEALED FROM MY ABANDONMENT ISSUES – S.S. (47 YEAR OLD WOMAN)

I would like to take this time to communicate the experience and healing that I received from being counseled through one of the most difficult times in my life.  About 8 years ago I lost my husband to a massive heart attack.  This tragic event was completely unexpected and threw me and my family into a place of emotional and physical train that I had never experienced before.  I became a single mother of 5 children and a wife who lost her best friend and soul mate.  Soon after losing my husband I began counseling with my pastor, Bob Barnett.  He was a safe man that I could trust which enabled me to pour out my heart and grief.  He offered a man’s perspective on my life and always turned my face to God.  Soon after counseling with Bob he suggested that I work through the Genesis Process.  I agreed and began my journey through this process.  I soon realized that I was struggling with abandonment issues that started many years prior to my adulthood.  You can imagine how losing my husband confirmed some of those beliefs.  As I worked through the Genesis Process I began to understand that what I was believing about myself was not truth but a lie.  As Bob led me through this process, I came to a point where I was able to invite Jesus into my lonely place of abandonment.  I twas a very healing experience for me.  From that time on I realized that I was not alone and that Jesus was always there and will ALWAYS be there for me.  I am grateful for the counseling I received in those dark years of my life!

FROM BEING STUCK TO FINDING FREEDOM AND VICTORY – B.C. (40 year old male)

I entered counseling with Pastor Bob Barnett in 2009 to deal with issues in my past that was impacting how I was living in the present.  I had sin in my life that I was not able to claim victory over regardless of how many times I would try or how many prayers I would lift up to God.  Bob helped me identify the false beliefs I had about myself and the reasons I held those beliefs and taught me how to identify what God believes about me and the value that I have in Him.  Through the tools that I gained during the months spent with Bob, I have been able to move forward in my faith, maintain victory over my sinful nature and truly follow after God wholeheartedly.  His compassion, understanding and non-judgmental approach to counseling has been life changing for me and my family.

FOUND HEALING IN AND FROM THE HURT —-  K.U.

When I look back I don’t see the hurt, I see the healing.
Reflecting on the most heartbreaking days of our lives the sentence above sums up how much Pastor Bob and the Genesis process helped us get through those days. The healing that went on continues to help us today in relationships, grief, and decision making. We had been trying to have a baby for many years and all in the same year had two devastating miscarriages  With gentle council I had the opportunity to work through forgiving others and myself. I was able to identify lies that I had believed for years and replace them with the truth. So many things we got to work through helped me/us make decisions for our future that at the time seemed very hard, into peaceful and joyful choices. Pastor Bob’s compassion and insightful words helped me share personal things that were necessary for healing. He continues to be a great support in my family’s life, and always uplifting with his words of encouragement. I often think of and use the tools I was given to work through life’s journey. Praying that many others will find healing within their hurt through this amazing ministry.

FROM CHAOS & FEAR TO PURPOSE & LOVE — M.M.
“I met Bob almost 20 years ago as I was in the most difficult period of my life. My wife of 16 years had moved out and I was lost and searching for how to continue to go forward in my life. I was just figuring out I was a ‘control addict’ and had ruined my relationship with my wife by trying to control her and everything else in my life.
I was also just figuring out how to turn my Christian life into a real walk with God. Bob was the new pastor of the church which I had begun attending after my ex (now) had moved out. He mentored me in my Christian walk, he was a model of how to be a mature Christian man and he was my friend who cared, prayed and helped me through the difficult emotional times I was experiencing.
He also led me through the Genesis Process which began a time of healing in my life. I was quickly approaching 60 and I had never looked at my life and the hurts and pains that had caused me to be living a fearful life (using control as protection). It was the beginning of a process that enabled me to accept myself and the love of God for the first time in my life. I was able to give God control of my life (and I still work on that) and accept love from a new wife, feeling that I am worth being loved.
Although I no longer attend church with Bob, he still is one of my best friends and I continue to be grateful for all he has meant to me and my new wife.”

FROM A BELIEVING I WAS A MONSTER TO THE LOVEABLE GIRL THAT I AM — Anonymous

“I went from my goal being to stay safe and having anxiety, depression, and using suicidal thinking to stay safe…to my goal being ”
NEW RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD – so that I am never “safe” again – to fully trust God with my life.”
The facilitator expressed warmth and caring so that for the first time I felt totally safe and cared for. He gave me permission to be myself and he looked at me the way I now know Jesus does….”

Here is my story: The Genesis Process helped me identify my “monster” traits and see that I was really a loveable person all along …

Once upon a time, there was a normal middle class house in a normal middle class neighborhood with a normal middle class family or so it seemed. There was a mother and a father and older siblings that came in and out of the home. And there was a little girl. But the family carried a secret. Unlike some other families who just go about their normal lives doing normal things the Suberbansteins had to “get ready” to be normal. They had to put on their people skin to cover up their monsterness. Daddy Suberbanstein was a mixture monster of fear – which gave him claws, pride which made him abnormally gigantic, selfishness which gave him one eye, numbing which encased his body in this shiny metallic black armor and hurt which allowed large lesions to fester. Mother Suberbanstein was a mixture monster of the wrong kind of submission – which made her small and flimsy like tissue paper, false beliefs – which caused her to have eyes everywhere including the back of her head, and fear which caused her feet to be light and her tongue to be metallic and sharp with jagged edges on it. The younger but older Suberbanstein siblings were monster mixes of addiction – which caused them to have little aliens coming out of their stomach and hijacking their brains and neglect which seems to make them have eyes that were blind to the world around them but facing inward so that they could not see anyone but themselves. The little girl didn’t need to “get ready” when she left the house when she was younger. And this “normalizing” practice confused her and made her wonder what she should be hiding about herself.
The outside of Suberbanstein home was beautiful. It was well manicured with flowers everywhere. But years and years of the Suberbanstein’s taking off their people skin when they got home had damaged the inside of the house. The interior walls were painted with fear. The air was filled with anxiety and tension so much so that it actually had a certain smell to it. There was so much negative energy that it dimmed the lights and drained the color out of everything.
Daddy Suberbanstein was the worst sometimes he would confuse the little girl wearing his people skin. One day Daddy Suberstanstein came home smiling in his people skin until he saw the little girls pet unicorn was leaving a fragrance of beautiful sweet flowers…Daddy’s smile changed and the little girls saw his monster horns come out as he went after her unicorn. He wanted to paint the unicorn with fear and fill it with anxiety so it no longer perfumed their home. Afterwards, Daddy put on his people skin again and called the little girl over to him. He sat her on his lap and she was hopeful that Daddy would make her unicorn better.
Instead he explained how she didn’t really see his monsterness and that unicorns weren’t supposed to be fragrant – all while his claws of fear were digging into her back and his eyes flashed with pride.
Such was life for the little girl. Normal =people skin and monsterness was the unacceptable norm. Over the years little by little the little girl began to adopt the normalizing process of the ADULT Suberbansteins. In was insidious and subtle. First it was in little things – she saw her reflection changing. Her voice became silent. She noticed part of herself becoming invisible and transparent under the weight of despair; then she grew small razor sharp spikes of hatred dripping with self-loathing on top of her head so she had dark streaks of loathing dripping down her face. The little girl became aware of her need to find people skin that would fit her so that she could go into the world of the “normal” people.
By the time the little girl grew up and left home she had become a full grown monster. What started out as silent voice became such a void of sound that her mouth had disappeared altogether. In it’s place was a dagger with razors for teeth. Her spikes had become adult horns and the self-loathing had a red tint of death in it now. Her eyes were sullen and she began looking for a way to stop her monsterness.
She tried a variety of things including getting more people skin and people gadgets to help her look less monster-like. She tried denying the monsterness which helped her horns and dagger to vanish if only for a moment or two. She learned about being “normal” and what the other people in suburbia do and she mimicked them – so much so that others believed her to be an upstanding “normal” middle class adult in a normal middle class neighborhood.
One day she a grown monster in people skin was out helping other “normals” when her people skin fell off in front of everyone and her monster-self started to show. She was mortified and began trying to “fix” her monsterness. She would saw off the horns – only to have them grow back bigger and stronger. She would tear the dagger off of her face only to have a sharper one grow in it’s place with more deadly razors.

Then she went to a place where some other middle class “normal” people were. She was about to tell everyone at this place that she was a monster and giving up her people skin when someone from across the room said he noticed she was helping the “normal” people…that she was helping them ~ so that they did not have to get any monster traits…
He was different. He saw through her people skin. He had a beautiful wife and she also saw through her people skin. But the really crazy thing was that they saw through her people skin and they didn’t see a monster. They saw a little girl and they loved her. He became her Genesis facilitator.

FROM A CEO OF A MAJOR CORPORATION -D.G.
To whom it may concern,
I would like to take a moment to acknowledge the fine work Bob did on my behalf working through the Genesis process.
Bob is kind, compassionate, empathetic and very competent. He has helped me through the inner healing process.
Throughout the time we spent together this humble man and I became friends.
I would strongly encourage you use Bob in this capacity. We live in a sinful world full of pain, disappointment, and despair. Bob brings a level of commitment sorely needed to a world needing a second chance.

In Christ`s Name,
D.G.

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