The Lies We Believe Become the Truth We Live By. What is the Solution?

Posted: July 19, 2012 in Daily Living
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Self-discovery, that understanding of why I behave the way I do, is a difficult road to walk. At different times in my life I’ve asked God to “search me and show me my anxious ways” and then felt pretty sanctimonious for the effort.  But regardless of my motive, God does in fact answer that prayer.

Recently, I discovered how much of my world is run by offense. I am not talking about offending others, although I probably do. What I am referring to is how frequently others offend me. A look, an off-hand comment, a social slight, you know what I mean.

While praying with friends a few months ago, one “corrected” my prayer in hers.  I could not let it go. I seethed. Inside my head I carried on all sorts of conversations, ones in which she would end up begging for my forgiveness. The “offense” consumed my thoughts for weeks and in the end I lost. I lost my peace, my focus, and my identity in Christ. When the conversations finally faded away I heard a still small voice saying, “What are you doing beloved?” And with those words God began to reveal how deeply the ‘offended victim’ response was entrenched in my soul.

Two Scriptures spoke to me:

Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.” Proverbs 19:11 ESV

“A brother offended is more unyielding than a strong city.”  Proverbs 18:19 ESV

Well, I wanted good sense and I wanted glory. And I certainly didn’t want to be as hard and unyielding as a strong city. But how does one overcome what feels like an auto-response?

Well-meaning Christians say victory comes by humbly surrendering our wills.  They are right . . . to an extent. But their answers are too vague to be helpful.  How can surrendering my will  bring change unless the underlying issues are addressed?

It can’t. Through the Genesis Process I’ve learned that every behavior is supported by beliefs. Mine. These beliefs create emotions that drive my behaviors. Some are true and some are not. The false ones need to be replaced with God’s truths if lasting change is to occur.

So, I began the hard work of drilling deep to what I believed about myself. Not alone of course, with God and others who’ve been there. It was hard work. Drilling always is. But, it was worth it. Really.

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